But for those extra difficult days, I try to focus on taking it one task at a time. Write a list. Get her done. There are tasks that have to be done today. Tasks with deadlines: that form that needs to be submitted today, that application due today, that bill that will be overdue after today, that bill that is already overdue today.
And some tasks are those that should be done today. I struggle to let go of those things that I wanted to get done today, to let go of the mental frustration that my to do list is not empty and checked off by the end of the day. This? You really need to let go of this negativity towards yourself for things you didn't do today, and re-task them for tomorrow. Because everything else you needed to do today, is done. And that is praise you can afford to give to yourself. Adulting is hard. And no one is going to pat you on the back if you don't do it yourself.
As I grow older, I have really come to appreciate just being by myself. Those things that a younger me would have thought were unimportant... Going to bed early. Getting adequate exercise. Cleaning my room. Spending a day decluttering and re-organizing. Sitting there reflecting the day, meditating and goal setting. These are all part of self care. And anything under self care? Should be under a category of routine things that are mandatory everyday. Nothing else should come first.
